A defensive 4.0 will beat an offensive 4.0 most of the times. We are not at the level in which we can punch through the other.meganfernandez wrote: ↑Thu Feb 29, 2024 7:27 pm ...
It took me a while to appreciate good defense and ball control on defense. I was just on the losing side of one of the matches you described above (but I didn't have a bad attitude about it). I couldn't punch through without making mistakes, and I can't put away a short ball or volley very well, so I don't have many good ways to end points against a human backboard. It can be very frustrating. But she won the whole tournament and beat other solid, offensive-minded 4.0s like me with an ugly game. I have no one to be upset with except myself - but it took me a while to get there.
I play matches for the exercise and mental/emotional growth. Learning to compete has helped me off the court, even at this late stage in life. That's one of the reasons I like tennis - I have been able to experience the benefits of competition in middle age. (And sometimes the match is really fun, but it's hit and miss.) I've also met a lot of friends through tennis. But i do enjoy just rallying. I certainly hit the ball better, and it's a pleasure to his clean groundies and glide around the court..
A couple of years ago, I was playing a giggle mix with my sister-in-law and one of her friends. I was paired with another friend. My sis' partner would not stop talking about the metal game. I told my partner: "everything you hit, go cross court. Everything. FH's, BH's, everything. I will finish the other points".
We won easily. But the point was: my sole role was to make it simple for my partner. Once I took out the thinking from her game, she was able to hit a lot of good cross court shots.
Until you reach 5.0, defense beats offense in tennis. Until then: go cross court 90% of the times. Let the other player be the one missing the down the line.