Talk About Tennis 2.0

I'm at a loss about this one.

ti-amie wrote: ↑Thu Mar 03, 2022 8:04 pm I'm at a loss about this one.

Their entire "marriage" has been transactional, why is it suddenly gross when it comes to a kid where she is taking on the grand majority of the risk and burden? He can high tail it out of there very, very easily too given it's not a real marriage that would be recognized anywhere as legal. Doesn't even sound like he suggested a a counter that she didn't have to pay anything towards their 50-50 split for the year in lieu of payment directly to her. He doesn't seem to appreciate that their setup doesn't give her any security during her pregnancy and maternity leave, and any potential consequences the leave has on her standing at work and why she'd ask this given how things have been so far in their "spiritual marriage." I don't know why he's surprised by any of this, it seems to be very much in keeping with their relationship setup.

But their relationship seems weird as hell to me. And doesn't seem like there's a lot of trust. Not sure why they aren't really married, but it seems that might go along with it.

1. She should have charged him an hourly rate for all the planning work she did to prepare her proposal
2. Maybe he doesn't mention it because it's irrelevant, but where is his parental leave in all this?
3. It hasn't even occurred to him to suggest they just combine their finances since they are taking on a joint risk together.
4. There is no common-law marriage status in the US (some states have it)

In general, this woman should ask for more. The career break is likely to impede her career and slow down her salary growth beyond the direct loss, plus, the company likely won't be making any retirement contributions (and potentially paying for other benefits) on her behalf while she's on leave, so that's an additional loss.

"It's nothing personal; it's just business. "
-David Samson

The transactional comment was correct. As was the comment about the binder. I am not going to wade into this one at all but will add a peripheral comment.

He makes 175K a year. So maybe he normally eschews social media.

There is NO way this wasn't going to go viral and likely the wife will find out. I bet she ups the charge

(And when I read the sister comment I thought for sure the sister was asked to be surrogate so wife could keep working)

I'm having a hard time sympathizing...

AITA for not telling my mom about my viagra?
nsfw

For you guys to be able to give an accurate judgement, this story requires backstory. Let me start of by saying I love mom. My mom is awesome and I wish her no ill-will. However, my mom is nosy as (expletive). Nosy. As. (expletive).

When I was growing up, she was the typical read-your-diary, go-through-the-nightstand, read-your-texts kind of a mom. It was all kind of chalked up to, over protective parenting. The situation got unbearable for me in college. My freshman and sophomore year I went to community college and lived at home (my parents had just gotten divorced) and like many other males I was horny. In my horniness, I went to the doctor and found out that I had contracted the clap (an sexually transmitted disease for any foreigners in the thread, treatable). A bill or something like that came in the mail for me and not only did my mom open it and read it (and pay for it) but she told my family about it. How did I find out? At thanksgiving when my aunt brought it up at the dinner table in front of a bunch of other family members who then proceeded to lecture me about safe sex.

Fast forward to today, I moved out after sophomore year and took a real step back from my family to figure out my life and where I wanted it to go. Went to pilot training, got on with an airline, life is good. My mom and I recently started slowly reconnecting and when I transferred base to my hometown, she offered to let me live in and use her house as my address because she now spends so much time with her boyfriend that she’s barely around. I would pay the bills, no rent, and I would put her on my flight benefits. Fair trade.

Well, my girlfriend and I decided to try out an online product. It’s a honey that supposedly has low doses of viagra in it to, you know it’s called a male supplement honey. Well, I got it delivered to the house but then flew back to back for like two weeks and didn’t make it home. Mid trip, I get angry calls and texts from my family saying that my mom went to the hospital thinking she was having a heart attack or tachycardia. Turns out my mom opened the mail, ate the honey, and was feeling the effects. Apparently I should have warned her that a box with my name on it was going to be coming with a perverted honey in it. Even my dad is siding with my mom and I feel like I’m taking crazy pills. Am I the asshole for not telling her I got viagra sent to the house?

Edit: two things, I moved out and also, my mom went to the er but they discharged her. She got a little high blood pressure and that was it. Viagra isn’t fatal to women and there’s not enough in the honey. She just had a strong reaction to it and she so over the top that she decided to admit herself. She literally drove herself to the ER.

ti-amie wrote: ↑Fri Mar 04, 2022 9:37 pm I'm having a hard time sympathizing...

With who? I'm NTA on that one. I had no idea at all where that was going, but I didn't think it was going to be mom opening his mail and blaming him for doing it.

JazzNU wrote: ↑Fri Mar 04, 2022 9:48 pm

ti-amie wrote: ↑Fri Mar 04, 2022 9:37 pm I'm having a hard time sympathizing...

With who? I'm NTA on that one. I had no idea at all where that was going, but I didn't think it was going to be mom opening his mail and blaming him for doing it.

I was joking...

He's NTA.

The two steps of telling your GF about your viagra regime.
First time. You tell her. She looks at you in disgust: "You took A PILL?!", the underlying tone being "you need to take a pill because you don't find me attractive anymore".
Second time. You are in an amorous mood. She asks: "You took a pill?", the underlying tone being "last time it worked really well, so if you did not, I can wait a little".
It is a joke that has to be acted.
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Nope, that guy is NTA. You opened somebody else's mail, you lost automatically. Something about privacy and all that jazz.

That was great!

And they can vote.
Nazi-Ponchi101 says: ....
You know what I say.

I'm embarrassed by the fact that I actually knew precisely what she meant.

dryrunguy wrote: ↑Mon Mar 07, 2022 10:39 pm I'm embarrassed by the fact that I actually knew precisely what she meant.

I"m embarrassed that I didn't. Did she mean digitize?

Kevin

dmforever wrote: ↑Mon Mar 07, 2022 11:17 pm

dryrunguy wrote: ↑Mon Mar 07, 2022 10:39 pm I'm embarrassed by the fact that I actually knew precisely what she meant.

I"m embarrassed that I didn't. Did she mean digitize?

Kevin

Part of it. You get a vaccine. Which means you get the chip. And then the government can take over your body (essentially turning you into a robot).